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I could be married in five years and I'd never experimented before. This was my chance to see what all the fuss was about.
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The connection wasn't there for me. Not a great start. But Tinder is addictive.
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That was liberating. Sex didn't have to be wrapped up with commitment, and "will he?
It could just be fun. Sometimes I had nothing in common with the guy but there was a sexual spark. In "real life", he was the ultimate knob. He didn't fit with my politics, my views, I'd never have introduced him to my friends.
In bed, though, he was passionate, eager, energetic. For a while, we'd hook up every six weeks. But there were a lot of negatives. It could feel … seedy. Where do you go caual sex? I didn't feel comfortable taking someone back to my place, as he'd then know where I lived, and I live Woman looking casual sex Story.
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If we went back to his, I'd have no idea what to expect. With "Aldgate East", we had to walk through a pub to get to the bedroom and I swear there was a train going through the lounge.
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At times, Tinder seemed less like fun, more like a gruelling trek across an arid desert of small talk and apathetic texting. More than once, I deleted the app, but always came back to it. It was more addictive than gambling. I never dreamed Woman looking casual sex Story end up dating 57 men in less than a year.
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I'm off it now. Four months ago, I met a man — "Hackney Boy" — through Tinder and at first, I carried on seeing him and dating others.In Need Of Repair Work
After a while, he wanted to get more serious. He's older than me and didn't want to waste time with Tinder any more. I had one last fling with "French Guy", then made a decision to stop. What did Tinder give me?
I had the chance to live the Sex and the City fantasy. It has made me less judgmental and changed my attitude to monogamy too. I used to be committed to it — now I think, if it's just sex, a one-night hook-up, where's the harm? I'm more open to Woman looking casual sex Story idea of swinging, Woman looking casual sex Story relationships, which is something I'd never have expected. At the same time, it has taught me the value of true connection.
It's really obvious when you have it, and usually, you don't. I hate to say it, but sex in a relationship beats casual sex. Yes, the rush of meeting someone new — new bed, new bodies — can, occasionally, be great. More often though, you find yourself yearning for a nice partner who loves you and treats you well.
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